Staying Close Even When You’re Far Apart
It’s tough being in a long-distance relationship. You miss your partner’s physical presence and the little things you used to take for granted, like sharing a meal or watching a movie together in the same room. But because you are miles apart doesn’t mean you can’t have a happy and healthy relationship-you need to put in a little extra effort. Here are four tips for keeping your long-distance relationship alive.
Make Time for Each Other
Just because you’re in different places doesn’t mean you can’t find time to connect regularly. Whether scheduling a weekly video chat date or sending each other daily texts, carving out time for each other is essential for maintaining intimacy. And when you do have time together, make sure to put away your phone and give your partner your full attention. There should be a no-work rule during this time as you focus on just being together.
Share Your Lives
Keep each other informed of what’s happening in your lives, from the mundane to the momentous. If something funny or exciting happens at work or school, let them know-it’ll make them feel like a part of your life even if they can’t be there in person. And as you go about your day-to-day, don’t forget to check in with each other now and then. Ask how the other is doing, what’s on their mind, and if there’s anything new or exciting.
Send Special Surprises
Want to make your partner feel extra special? Send them little surprises to show you’re thinking of them. It can be something small but meaningful, like a photo of the two of you or their favorite snack from home. Or you can plan and organize bigger surprises, like tickets for a virtual concert or arranging a weekend getaway when you have the time to go home. You can also buy them a ticket, so they can come and visit you. Of course, do this within your means and if it fits your schedule.
Be Patient and Compassionate
Long-distance relationships can be challenging, so it’s important to practice patience and understanding with each other. Don’t be quick to jump to conclusions or criticize the other person when there is miscommunication or a misunderstanding. The key is communication-talk about any issues that arise honestly and openly, so your partner feels heard. And when you’re feeling overwhelmed, remind yourself of how much love and care you have for each other.
Get Creative with Your Communication
Aside from talking on the phone or video chatting, there are plenty of other ways to stay connected with your partner. Send each other snail mail (yes, actual letters!). You can also send each other photos and videos throughout the day or even start a shared blog or podcast where you can talk about whatever you want. The important thing is that you find ways to communicate that work for both of you.
Be Honest About How You’re Feeling
Feeling lonely or frustrated is normal when you’re in a long-distance relationship. What’s not normal is bottling up those feeling and pretending everything is okay. If you’re feeling low, reach out to your partner and tell them how you’re feeling-chances are they’re feeling something similar and will appreciate the honesty. Distance is hard enough, don’t make it harder by not being open and honest with each other.
Keeping the Spark Alive
Don’t forget to keep the spark alive in your long-distance relationship! Make sure you set aside time for fun activities only you two can do together. This can be watching movies together or playing virtual games, but it’s important to ensure you’re still having fun. And when you can, plan trips to visit each other-nothing beats face-to-face time, and it’s a great way to create new memories together.
Make Plans for the Future
One of the best ways to feel close to your partner when you’re apart is to have something to look forward to together. Whether planning a vacation for when you see each other again or making tentative plans for moving together someday, looking towards the future will help tide you over during the tough times apart.
If you have bigger plans like settling down, it’s time that both of you plan when and where that will happen. It is also the perfect time to save up for the dream wedding you always wanted. Save and send money to the Philippines if you’re from there and if that’s where you plan to tie the knot. Coordinate and prepare for a wedding you both have always dreamed of. Make sure that your hard-earned money will be worth it in the long run.
Maintaining a long-distance relationship is difficult, but it’s not impossible either! You can keep your bond strong even when miles apart by making time for each other, getting creative with your communication, being honest about your feelings, and making plans for the future.
